Surrounded by Narcissists---Let Your Light Shine
At some point the children in narcissistic families discover that the people who"raised" them were unable to be genuine. As narcissists they lived as false often grandiose selves. Getting in touch with the real self is not possible for the narcissist. Children in these families are often highly favored as special and superior. Many of them become narcissists and repeat the family pattern.
Those who step out and separate and individuate from the narcissistic family of origin take a monumental passage forward to re-acquaint themselves with their true selves and all of their special gifts, talents and energies that they have concealed from themselves for so long. One of the purposes we are here on earth is to manifest our creative gifts in the special form it takes in each individual. The maxim--"Let your light shine" is a wise one and essential to leading whole, healing and triumphant lives. You may be surprised at how many of your creative gifts you have left lying fallow. Many are amazed at the rich capacities that they have deep within them. The other part of your healing is in sharing what you have learned with others. There are so many people who feel trapped by the narcissistic personality.in each family constellation. Some of those who are now living in the freedom of the light communicate their journeys in various forms--writing, art, being active in support groups.
We celebrate your perseverance through this process and the emergence of your real self that has been waiting all of your life to become the person you were meant to be. To learn about the narcissistic personality in-depth, visit my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation: United States and International
Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life
Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 2/2/2012 11:51 PM 
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Its is difficult to let go your family and outer circle of family we have been bearing up living 200 miles from them but still under pressure they come to the front my husband had major surgery, they never came to intensive care let me go on my own,which I cope with, and then 13 days later made a visit and the very next day my husband was unwell, they only come when everything is done,yes they did send money but it feels like blood money you get on with it dear that me, and we will arrive later and keep you mouth shut, I have told them recently after they proclaimed they were good parents and I told them not from where I am sitting well then I got it da da da. but I have survived and I belief that my life will get better from showing their sole reflections they will move away to let me get on with the life I have, you think they are doing no harm big mistake they are doing alot of harm.thanks to the site I am able to read my feelings.
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This is simply beautiful. Bless you for posting this information. Sometimes i get lost when i am stuck in a situation where i am being battered (as in the past). For example, a "prospective" sister-in-law who is very controlling, and perhaps a bit of a narcissist. I had a 5 day meltdown of sorts. It took 5 days to come back to feeling normal: Not numb, not completely deflated, no energy, no sleep, headaches: Weepy, sad, depressed. MAD! I mean angry! The rage that comes up when i'm in these situations is unbearable. My brother was the "sainted" one, but he is also currently a 300 pound alcoholic and rage-aholic. And i'm the bad one??? Right? That is the essence of that nutty family. Thank you for reminding me that my grandmother (when we visited) was a source of love and attention. She knew my mom, so she showed me love. I was creative (which is coming out more now). I spent lots of time at friend's house (course mom didn't like that -- but we weren't allowed guests). So, again, bless you for bringing back some sanity in a dark hour! xoxo meliss
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Linda...this is great and right on. I am newly stepping out from all narcissists in my life. I feel naked to be honest with you. I have never known life without abusive narcissism in it. So yea I feel something huge has been lifted. This feeling is both good and bad. I feel like a fish out of water while at the same time knowing I am doing something great for myself by removing narcissists from my life. Have you made a posting or could you make a post on the phases of recovery when breaking away from a life with narcissists? I think it would help to know what to expect and what the recovery process/experience may be like? I don't seem to find much on this other than very general stuff. If you have any input on this subject I would greatly appreciate it.
Thanks again for everything you post and I am enjoying your book greatly!
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