Narcissistic daddies often have favorite daughters. They pick a child who is their special narcissistic supply. Often she is beautiful, full of confidence, bright, an attention getter. From the beginning the narcissistic dad gives this child all of his attention---ignoring his other children. Narcissists are incapable of loving anyone genuinely. But in this case the narcissistic daddy's girl is the ultimate narcissistic supply. She is the living emblem of her father's perfect image. She is the prize, the golden girl, the one who is going to make her daddy shine. Sometimes there is an erotic tie between these fathers and daughters. Although there is no explicit sexual behavior between the two, one senses that a relationship that is charged with something beyond plain affection. This union continues throughout childhood. Often mother is jealous of this special relationship and feels hurt and left out. This is a pathological triangle. The narcissistic daughter defers to her father, knowing that she can get anything from him with just a flash of a smile, a tilt of the hip, a tiny wink.
Nothing is lost on these narcissistic daddy's girls. They grow up and a large number of them become full fledged narcissistic women who victimize their spouses. The repetition has gone full circle. We now have a rampaging narcissistic female spouse making her husband's life hellish. She is demanding, controlling, openly cruel, vindictive, demeaning. She constantly humiliates her husband and when she can't get what she wants (which is everything) she returns to daddy, makes nice and nicer---and bingo---She's gets exactly what she wanted and more. This pattern continues all of her life. She leaves many broken hearts and marriage behind her without a pinch of conscience or a backward glance. Protect yourself from narcissistic daddy's girls. Research and learn about the narcissistic personality in-depth. Visit my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Narcissistic Daddy's Girls become Narcissistic Spouses
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Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 1/3/2012 2:24 PM 
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Thank you for this article, they are so rare on this subject. My oldest daughter, now 35, fits the description to the T. Her father, from whom I divorced when she was 11, was what I call a "genteel, bourgeois, covert narcissist". He placed great expectations on our first daughter who was beautiful, very intelligent and talented. For him, she was destined to intellectual greatness. He consistently undermined any effort of discipline on my part, and she was overtly his "favorite". Our second daughter wasn't worth his attention, she was deemed too "manual". I fought this totally unfair situation for years but the girls unfortunately adopted it as reality. Having lived with a narcissistic/paranoid mother, I was used to harsh criticism and humiliation and had no wish to see it imposed on my children. I did manage to free myself legally and psychologically of my mother after years of therapy but her behavior permeated the relationship with F, my oldest daughter. I had full custody of the girls and a non-confrontational relationship with their father. Ultimately, F decided to go and live with her father. J stayed with me, we were very close then and still are. Over the past 15 years, what I had thought was "typical adolescent behavior" in F, became entrenched sense of entitlement and full-blown passive-aggressive manipulation of me. I was walking on eggshells all the time even though we live on 2 different continents. Things took a horrible turn when, on a trip to see her, I couldn't take her disrespectful, venomous behavior (including snippy remarks, silent treatment, lying, etc.) and for the very first time told her so...And left, with my husband, whom she also disrespected. She then flooded me with verbally abusive emails, accusing me of horrible things that had never happened, threatening me,to the point that I thought she had lost her mind. I stopped all contact. She was pregnant with her first child, we "made up" over the phone by pretending nothing had happened, I gave in to her wish to see me on vacation so that I could meet my grandson but she once again treated my husband and me like c--p. Her sister-in-law confirmed that everyone was treated the same way. F's husband is the same, by the way, and their relationship is one of nasty comments followed by ignoring the other person. After a totally insane phone conversation where I was subjected to the works e.g. gaslighting, manipulation, lies, dissociation etc., I had a nervous breakdown and needed therapy and medication for 2 years. Only then did I understand what had happened and what narcissism was about. I have cut off all communication and only write to my grandchildren for their birthdays and other holidays. F still tries to bait me by sending pictures of the kids and always sneaks in an ambiguous comment such as "although you have decided not to talk to me, I feel you are entitled to know how your grandchildren are doing". BTW, she's a lawyer (not family law, thank God)! Today, I'm ok.
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