It is remarkable how often narcissists project their filthy venom on to
others (Except those they are grooming to become part of their cult of
personality and power). If you already know that an individual is a
narcissist, protect yourself in advance. One of the first rules is not
to be alone with them---that's when they go deeply cruel and dirty. They
feel that they have you cornered and they pin you with a stealth
attack. You feel it coming out of no where and say to yourself: "What
the hell was that?" You think to yourself and wonder if you actually
heard what this person was saying. Narcissists making these malevolent
moves are over the top so steer clear of being with them, especially
solo. If you know you will be in their presence, prepare ahead of time.
Remind yourself of their specific psychopathology. They may be you
sibling, in-law, parent, etc.---but above all they are a
narcissistic personality disorder and their character profile in not
going to change---ever. Do not blame yourself. These ugly projections
are actually unconscious psychological material that they cannot contain
themselves and are throwing your way. Learn how to practice detachment. One of the ways of becoming more detached is
through some form of quieting the mind. Meditation offers us many opportunities for calming the mind. Find of way of calming yourself and your mind that works for you. This provides us with the
capacity to have a more balanced perspective and not to overreact
to someone else's drama. Always remind yourself that you deserve
respect and consideration as an individual. Give yourself a lot of
credit for learning about the narcissistic personality. Visit
my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation: United States and International
Book:Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life
Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Protect Yourself from Narcissist's Malicious Projections
Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 11/23/2011 10:07 AM 
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It's the holidays and I have seen my daughter once since May and it was stunning how she saw our estrangement. I'm so glad my husband was there to hear first hand her projecting onto us all the blame for the brokenness of our relationship. I walked away from that meeting never needing to see or talk to her again.
She sent her paternal grandmother a Thanksgiving day card telling her how much she misses 'her sweet face'. This is the first communication she's had with this grandmother since before May. Now my dear Mother in law is thinking of inviting her to our Christmas get together. I'm devastated! It will be a train wreck and I do not want to see it. I'm still healing from the verbal and emotional abuse and not willing to be in the same room with her. The evil this girl lives in and her ability to look like the victim and not the 'victimize-r' leaves one thinking they are going crazy.
So I'm trying to decide what I need to do to make sure I am safe and not hurt my dear m-i-l.
I do agree that I can never be alone with her EVER. That is when the fangs come out.
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My advice after living with a narcissistic husband is to train yourself to not let her push your buttons. I remind myself, "He is mentally ill. I need not react to mental illness." The least I react the less escalated our interactions became. Oh he still tried to push my buttons relentlessly. I am now divorced but it helped me get through the last few months and the long divorce. You deserve respect so walk away to preserve. I know it is not that simple. You are not crazy.
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