There are innumerable painful stories of severe psychological and emotional abuse perpetrated by a narcissistic brother or sister during childhood upon their siblings. The intimidations, barbed criticisms and humiliations are rampant in these households. In these families one or both parents is a narcissist and tends to side with the narcissistic child. This creates an unending emotional climate and siege and danger in the home.
The sensitive non-narcissistic child faces perpetual assaults from the sadistic narcissistic brother or sister. In some cases other children in the family are too afraid of this cruel narcissist and join in on the bullying and terrorizing of the innocent, very vulnerable sibling. The psychological damage left behind is immense. Victims of this abusive treatment spend much of their childhoods in a state of terror. Many of them find ways to hide in their own homes. They know that neither mother nor father will protect them from ongoing verbal bombardment. The victimized child is left alone to protect himself, know that no one, not any member of his family will come to his rescue. He feels and is all alone. Narcissistic parents who allow one child to terrorize another year after year are despicable human beings. A child brutalized by this form of imprisonment often learn to numb out emotionally to protect himself.
There are adult victims of these highly dysfunctional family constellations including sadistic narcissistic brothers and sisters who survive to tell the tale. Many of them find ways to stay away from home if at all possible. Others leave the house early and live with friends and their families. Often these victimized siblings are not believed and discover that not only did they have to endure the abuse, they are now being with disrespect and ridicule and accused of being a liar when they speak the truth about their narcissistic sibling. This is especially the case if the narcissistic siblings has achieved "professional or worldly success" with a capital "S". Many of these children end up severing their relationships with their narcissistic sibling and and narcissistic parent(s.)They say No to more narcissistic abuse. They have won the battle against the narcissistic family to become, they they have value as separate individuals. I hear from adult children who bore the ugliness of having a sadistic narcissistic sibling and often narcissistic parents. After study on their own, they have learned that the narcissistic personality is fixed, that narcissists are psychologically brutal and most importantly, that they have now reclaimed their lives and are free to be their unique selves. To learn about the narcissistic personality disorder in-depth, visit my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Narcissistic Siblings---Their Domestic Reign of Terror
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Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 8/10/2011 12:11 PM 
Categories: mental health, narcissistic parents, narcissistic fathers, self help. mental health, children of narcissistic parents, narcissistic brother, narcississtic personality, narcissistic personality, interpersonal relationships, abusive relationships, narcissistic mothers, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissism, personality disorders, narcissistic daughters, family relationships, narcissistic mother, narcissistic family
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Categories: mental health, narcissistic parents, narcissistic fathers, self help. mental health, children of narcissistic parents, narcissistic brother, narcississtic personality, narcissistic personality, interpersonal relationships, abusive relationships, narcissistic mothers, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissism, personality disorders, narcissistic daughters, family relationships, narcissistic mother, narcissistic family
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Yes! Yes! Yes!its all here in this post. This was my life with my narcissistic family and siblings. They never had souls, they move on in their high flying jobs and lives, but something is seriously wrong with them. They live with themselves only by telling people their daughter is mental, their sister is mental. I know now of the sad truth. I have to let them go and move on with my life and protect my son. Reading your posts every day Dr linda Martinez, its the best psychological nourishment ive had, thankyou Jane x
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Jane, spot-on, these individuals convince everyone else that somehow you're "mental" or "crazy" -- and then it's hard for me to be in family situations (holidays, for instance) knowing the horrible things everyone at the table has said about me, behind my back. And naturally if I don't participate in order to protect myself that is one more thing they cite to prove my deranged mental state. Thanks for sharing, Jane.
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I know this one all to well. There is nothing like coming into a family event and being looked at like your a schizoid homicidal maniac. That is until you talk with the people who only heard the lies, then their faces change from disgust to confusion because your nothing like you've been painted. Henry
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Hello,
I have never before seen my life so plainly spelled out - OMG! Now that my mother is elderly with an elderly spouse, the narcissistic sibling has managed to rear it's ugly head! Spouse trying to get mother away in desparation - pull me back in - sis wins over everyone still - her behaviour is horrid and always defended - still dependent on our 85 year old mother for food money! And, she has a husband and two grown sons! I'm venting, but thank you for providing a platform to do so. I am at my wits end - this sister will take my mother to the poor house and mother will go along with a smile! Everyone else, including spouse, who are trying to help this insane situation is the enemy - mother having been recently diagnosed with onset dementia - who will take care of her? Step-dad and yours truly trying to provide a safety net and cannot make it happen! Sibling keeps stirring the pot so that spouses are constantly at odds! I cannot believe this still continues! 85 and 91 years old and sis just keeps them at each others' throats - I'm talking screaming matches! Then they call me to solve it! I'm at my wits's end. Thank you for letting me vent.
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Very grateful to you, Dr. Martinez, for describing what went on in my family for decades, with my parents aiding and abetting the narcissistic son, especially when he became a multi-millionaire following the successful sale of a business and several internet lawsuit settlements. Before he acquired great wealth, he squatted in a grandfather's rental apartment (in between tenants) -- refusing to pay rent for 12 years until an aunt finally had to evict him in order to resume collecting almost $1000/month from a paying tenant. I have always felt my parents turned a blind eye to this, and now are treating him as though he deserves the same inheritance as those who didn't bilk the family. Have others had a similar experience with a narcissistic sibling? I am completely estranged from this brother, and feel as though my parents' unwillingness to deal with the situation fairly will estrange me from them completely, too.
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