How Many Times Will You Be Re-Cycled by the Narcissist

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For thousands of years women have been used, abused, cycled and re-cycled by narcissistic men. They are girlfriends, ex-girlfriends, first wives, second wives, third wives, etc. ex-wives.  A narcissist will use you any time you are of benefit to him for varieties of reasons. Maybe you have access to money--your own or through your family. Are you highly visible socially and well connected. Do you have high prestige as a professional. Are you beautiful. Do you have a prominent family. Are you dependent on men and willing to do anything to make them happy---even compromising your entire life. I hear these stories all of the time and it is heartbreaking.

Narcissists are super exploiters---They don't have relationships with women--They use them to the hilt at every opportunity. Many woman know this but are beguiled by a particular narcissistic man and the lifestyle that he promises. Do you realizes that while he is slathering it on thick with you, he is thinking of several other women on whom he will use this same script. Yes it is like being in a play. Narcissists never take the feelings of others seriously. They don't care if you are hurt and abandoned. You---Unique You-- are easily replaceable to the narcissist. As long as he  looks great, is potent, feels money flush, and is turning heads and getting ahead and toppling others in business--that's all he cares about. This is the raw truth about the narcissist. Once you know this, take it to heart and spare yourself a lot of suffering.

Lead the life that you deserve. Choose a man who is up to your standards--someone capable of love, affection, emotional intimacy. Strengthen yourself so that you are not inclined to fall for this kind of infantile, selfish, deceitful man ever again. I wish you the very best. I have faith in you. To learn about every facet of the narcissistic personality disorder in-depth, visit my website: thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life
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Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 7/11/2011 4:08 PM
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  • 7/11/2011 8:57 PM Kelly wrote:
    Thank you for this blog. I wish I understood this "before" I married one. I am divorced now for 5 years. Ironically, my ex-husband and I did not live together. He uprooted me from my residence of 9 years and then abandoned me with an EMAIL. Interesting that you used the word "play" because his email was vague and cryptic. He said "we came to the stage with different scripts." Only in hindsight do I realize that he thought I was going to "fix" everything wrong with him. Instead, I went off to play volleyball while he ignored me. He watched tv in a different room and he made comments about hating to hear me "laughing" at TV shows. I think he thought I would literally worship him. They are parasites but they are also good at hiding that. Sometimes, I liken these men to hunters who are only satisfied when they have killed their pray.
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  • 7/30/2011 8:24 AM mikki wrote:
    It is so true that they don't care at all if you are hurt or abandoned. And I am very clear that You can be "replaced" without even a thought by anyone at all that shows them admiration. Regardless of the years you have given them, the sacrifices, and them basically draining you dry in every way, they will view any "new narcissistic supply" as "better" than you. They are the most morally disloyal people on earth. They are dumb in that they actually equate simple compliments by another stranger as something "huge" and sustenance to hold on to. They don't count longevity at all. They will trust a stranger who is impressed with them over you (a spouse) and throw you under the bus for the another who is giving them more accolades. They don't care that they have hurt you to the point that you loathe them and can no longer "praise" them as they were used to, nor do they care to apologize or fix their hurtful behavior. They often "up the anty" when they realize that you are drained...and go in for the final psychological kill.
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  • 2/9/2012 5:41 PM Used Wife wrote:
    This is so true. It took me four years of being married to my narcissist to even realize this. He hid this so well but now its like his mask slips off all of the time when it comes to me. He openly tries to tell me how he uses this girl and that girl and this was during a time that we were separated. He told me he wanted me back and when I mentioned the other women he told me that they were nothing to him but something to do and that he was just trying to use them for their money. I didn't like this even though I had no real sympathy for women who mess around with my husband regardless of us being separated. I wonder now what he is using me for being that I have no money or anything. wonder what was my job in his eyes
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