Narcissistic Mothers-Their Children Are Narcissistic Supplies
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The narcissistic mother, especially those who overpower their spouse and everyone in the household with the force of her will, treats her children like narcissistic supplies. Narcissistic mothers enhance their grandiosity and overblown sense of omnipotence by using their children to enhance their bloated egos and the elaborate false mask that they show the world. Most people outside of these highly dysfunctional homes would never guess or believe that these mothers are abusing their children. Some narcissistic mothers play their parts so well that other family members living outside the home believe their well rehearsed act. Narcissistic mothers often cast their children in different roles. Many choose a child who will become a perfect mirror of the narcissistic mother. The chosen child is often very bright, can be gifted musically, has athletic skills and is very attractive or pretty. Mother is entranced with this child. She has found the perfect vision of herself in this being to whom she has given birth. This child is adored by her over all of her other children. The others siblings are treated very differently. Often there is a sensitive kid who endures volumes of verbal abuse and assault to his person. She/he is told that she is ugly, can never measure up, is deficient, etc. This cruel theme is repeated daily to this child and has very negative effects on this individual's psyche. Even those who are "chosen" , though privileged and allowed to do whatever they want, including being cruel to their brothers and sisters, are forced to become a perfect clone of the mother. They are human puppets who must dance to her choreography---They are living narcissistic supplies.
Narcissistic mothers as they grow older continue these cruel practices, turn one child against the other, causing psychological chaos and emotional damage. Those who are victims of these non-mothers try to survive the best they can. Even into adulthood, victims of narcissistic mother's abuse are still suffering the tortures of childhood. At some point many of these adult children decide that they must sever this "relationship" with mother to reclaim their own lives and their unique selves. They stop contact with the narcissistic mother. They seek the support of others who understand their suffering and are there to comfort them and help them heal. Human beings are resilient when provided with good psychological nourishment. Many of these scapegoated children, free from the narcissistic mother gulag, discover their creative gifts, find that they are able to have deep loving relationships and find inner peace inside of themselves. To learn about the narcissistic personality in-depth, visit my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 7/1/2011 8:38 AM 
Categories: mental health, interpersonal relationships, narcissistic personality, personality disorders, children of narcissistic mothers, self help. mental health, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissism, female narcissists, abusive relationships, family relationships, narcissistic mothers
Categories: mental health, interpersonal relationships, narcissistic personality, personality disorders, children of narcissistic mothers, self help. mental health, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissism, female narcissists, abusive relationships, family relationships, narcissistic mothers
I am only 2 1/2 months "no contact" and although I do want to reconcile with a different mind set at some time, the act of no-contact is like a scab that gets to heal, instead of being picked at over and over again. It's sad that these types of Mothers get the "outside" praise while those "inside" of the home or her life "suffer."
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This words in this article just leap right off the page as I read it. In particular, the overpowering of their spouse, the enhanced grandiosity, the bloated egos and false mask they show the world make me wonder if you have met my family. I believe Dr. Martinez-Lewi coined the phrase, "Human Possession" and that concept says it all. As a child of these fraudulent mothers you are treated like a shiny holiday ornament until you disagree with the narcissist or stand up for yourself and call them out on their horrific behavior. Most if these people wouldn't recognize the truth or reality if slapped them in the face. And rest assured, if these toxic people treat you, their precious offspring with such contempt and hate, how do you think they will treat the rest of humanity? My guess is that you probably already know. These people don't need anymore excuses for their behavior, they need consequences.
In my opinion, when you get to the point of actual nausea in their presence it's probably time to walk away. The meltdown of a narcissist is analogous to the implosion of a planet. It is a huge spectacle and the ensuing shrapnel will attempt to take down anyone and anything in the vicinity. After four years of essentially no contact, I can attest to the liberating feeling of no longer participating in the family charade.
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well said Chuck i totally agree. No contact is the only way to survive in the end, you can feel yourself dying inside if you spend to much time with the narcissistic family. That sick feeling you feel in their presence is our natural fear response. I wished i listened to mine, as i ended getting a serious broken leg at the family home in one of their mad drinking binges. Sometimes drinking with them eased the sick feeling but ive paid the price. Im trying to stay no contact, but every now and then narcissistic mother contacts my son on line. im doing my best to keep him safe and a happy secure person. My son has been a life saver for me. Ive brought him up a secure happy person, i did not repeat the cycle of hate. Jane
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