Disentangling Yourself From Narcissistic Husband

Many women marry narcissistic men without knowing it. It is very easy to be taken in by these super charmers. If you now recognize that you are married to this man, you experience his Jekyll/Hyde traits----magnetic and charismatic, wearing his public persona. Everyone in his adoring audience is applauding--This is Dr. Jekyll.  Behind closed doors another hidden personality comes out of the shadows---Yes, Mr. Hyde is here. Mr. Hyde strikes fear in his spouse. He is filled with endless rage that spews out in frightening ways. He is always right; you are always wrong. Mr. Hyde criticizes you, expecting you to be perfect. When you let down and think that your life is becoming calmer, your spouse verbally demeans you, calls you worthless and stupid, causing severe emotional distress. You ask yourself: Should I stay in this marriage. Maybe, I'm at fault. If I tried harder, was more patient, gave him more of a chance, we could work it out.

This kind of thinking will prolong the narcissistic spouse's verbal abuse and your constant anxiety, depression and feelings of being trapped. Study the narcissistic personality disorder in-depth. Narcissists do not change; this is a fixed characterlogical disorder. Narcissists are not only pleased with themselves; they are ecstatic about their perfect selves, their mastery and control of others and the adulation of their adoring circle. Work consistently at becoming stronger psychologically and using your creative gifts. Take time practicing quieting your mind with gentle yoga and meditation in the way that these healing modalities work for you. As you develop a sense of separateness and a greater appreciation of yourself as a unique individual, you will begin to disentangle yourself from your narcissistic spouse. You will become more detached and capable of seeing the narcissist clearly, recognizing that you are entitled to lead the life you deserve. Visit my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com 

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 6/5/2011 10:52 PM
Categories: married to narcissist, mental health, narcississtic personality, interpersonal relationships, narcissistic personality, divorcing your narcissist, personality disorders, self help. mental health, narcissistic spouse, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissism, abusive relationships, narcissistic husband, narcissistic rage, married to a narcissist
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  • 6/26/2011 7:33 PM mikki wrote:
    I do not want to stay in this marriage with my NPD husband, but I feel trapped. The reason is because his mother and ex-wife are both NPDs and are waiting for us to break up so that they can slander me through out this city. They have already begun their lies...and are predators/vultures just waiting to swoop down on me -as if they haven't done enough already! I would leave, run if that was not the case. These things are truly evil! They have no soul. I got my husband to leave me last year, but he only stayed gone for a week. I was sure he would find someone to latch onto and forget me...find a place to stay, but no such luck. They don't care who they latch onto, so I figured anyone would do as a replacement. His living arrangements fell thru after a week and he was back. For two weeks he was kind, because I told him he must be. (Theat is how I know their evil and cruelty is voluntary), because they can control it if they want to. They get off on being cruel to those close to them. They love to watch their suffering. It is amazing how nice he is to others (strangers and enemies alike), but he sees me as his enemy. The nicer I am to him, the crueler he is to me. I believe that I will get out of this toxic relationship, and I am praying it will be with as little damage and humiliation as possible.
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    1. 7/8/2011 7:37 AM maureen wrote:
      To leave a narcissist is to sever all ties. The getting away process is not about agreeable terms but about self preservation, yours!
      The defamation of character will happen this is expected when dealing with a narc.
      The terms of separation are not about maintaining 'good relations', as even if the 'pie' is equally divided the narc. will claim indifference! Entitlement to whatever terms and conditions the narc. rationalizes to be reason for their claims of retribution.

      To have any further encounters only serves to provide more opportunity for continued abuse!

      When speaking of your situation be very careful that you have proof to any allegations you publicly speak regarding anothers character.

      Begin to collect hard concrete evidence that cannot be disputed.

      Change all contact numbers, begin to restrict or compeletly end all communications.

      There is no way to have an agreeable end with a narc. it ends with a final and complete unreserved full blown rage!.

      Which provides yet more reasonable proof for yourself to end all ties!
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