In some dysfunctional families, mother and father are not narcissists. They want the best for their children but one or both of them make the mistake of allowing their first born daughter to control them from early on through her temper tantrums, battles of will, her sneering disregard and demeaning of her young siblings. In many instances the father has capitulated his power to the mother. Some of these mothers are psychologically weak, feel inadequate, tend to give in to stronger personalities. I know of several family constellations where the oldest narcissistic daughter is ruling the household by the age of four. Mother is so intimidated by her that there are no limits placed on her behavior. This budding narcissist is very willful and overwhelms her mother.
The first born narcissistic daughter is frequently cruel and brutal with her young siblings. She makes fun of them, telling them they are stupid. Mother does not correct her out of control child. She, the adult, is afraid to say anything because she fears a full screaming fit by her older daughter. I have seen younger siblings suffer horribly under the reign of terror of these narcissistic Queen Bees. These wars continue through adulthood with the parents bending to the will of their narcissistic, unempathic cruel, controlling daughter.
If you were in this stressful, demeaning role as the sibling of a narcissistic older sister, it is time to recognize that you deserve to be respected as an individual even if your parents are too psychologically weak to speak the truth---that their oldest daughter is a cruel narcissist. You may have to sever your relationship from your older sister. She is simply impossible and very toxic to you. The singular goal is to end this hurtful relationship to lead your own life. Free yourself to use all of your creative gifts, set your spontaneity loose, develop intimate emotional relationships,work toward achieving pychological wholeness and deep inner peace. To learn about every facet of the narcissistic personality disorder, visit my website: thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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First Born Narcissistic Daughter's Reign of Terror
Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 5/25/2011 1:52 PM 
Categories: mental health, narcissistic sister, narcississtic personality, narcissistic rage, personality disorders, interpersonal relationships, self help. mental health, female narcissists, narcissism, narcissistic siblings, abusive relationships, family relationships
Tags: cruel narcissistic daughters narcissists harm their siblings mother intimidated by narcissistic daughter
Categories: mental health, narcissistic sister, narcississtic personality, narcissistic rage, personality disorders, interpersonal relationships, self help. mental health, female narcissists, narcissism, narcissistic siblings, abusive relationships, family relationships
Tags: cruel narcissistic daughters narcissists harm their siblings mother intimidated by narcissistic daughter
This article is fabulous! My sister right to a "T"! I am laughing because I never thought I would see the interaction between my family members in print by someone who never met us in person. Yet, here it is. I guess old "Screaming Mimi" lives with a lot of families. It is much better when you get to the place where you just don't care about them anymore. They are in their own hell, but will never admit it. I recently have confirmed that I have been chosen as the family "crazy", in an online article by my sister's daughter who spent very little time with me to begin with. Apparently I let=forced her to drink milk and orange juice as a child and she threw up. (What,no mention of vodka?) I guess that constitutes attempted murder. I suspect mother's little golden child still can't take responsibility for her own behavior, even at 25. There's more:stealing inheritance, verbal abuse,lying, the usual, but it's just a story, a tired old story. I am finally able to embrace freedom, bit by bit. It takes time but is can be done. And it feels SO good.
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