Most Narcissists are obsessed with their image---impeccable physical appearance, professional reputations, societal standing, important connections, their superiority and their need to have others look upon them as wonderful human beings. Narcissists put on such convincing acts that they deceive professional observers like psychotherapists, attorneys and judges.
I have been in communication with family members of narcissists who are shocked at split in the narcissist's presentation of himself in the world and in his private life. Those inside his charmed circle are entranced with this man or woman who appears to be capable of achieving anything he puts his mind to. These accomplishments are often built up by the narcissist, putting himself in the role of leader and hero. Narcissists are gifted story tellers. They can spin yarns that are full of holes, exaggeration and made from whole cloth and audiences will be hanging on their every word. Narcissists often take credit for the achievements of others.
In private, narcissists act with malicious cruelty, withering ongoing criticism and a steel fist attitude about controlling their family members. Some spouses, siblings and children of narcissists are treated with great disrespect. Many narcissists are never home and lead secret lives with their mistresses and girlfriends.
After years of leading a very stressful life with a narcissist many partners simply cannot carry on this charade any longer. When you awaken and discover that you are married to an ultimate hypocrite who is incapable of loving anyone but himself, it's time to take stock. Even if you have known this person for years , he is still criticizing you constantly, wearing down your nervous system and your will and any sense of optimism.
If you want to be free of this dreadful hypocrite, you have a decision to make---to stay or leave. This individual is never going to improve. You can change your life and make it a lot better by letting go of the burden of sharing it with this impossible individual. You now know that these men and women are hypocrites to the max. You are genuine and authentic and deserve to lead a life free from this rigid, deeply pathological personality disorders. To learn about every facet of the narcissistic personality disorder, visit my website: thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Narcissists-Big Hypocrites Concealing Their True Natures
Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 5/3/2011 3:58 PM 
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My narcissist step-father kept me grounded for 2 1/2 years straight, through middle school and high school for forgetting to take out the trash or forgetting to do the dishes on a daily basis (I was in charge of taking care of ALL of the chores at home, my mom and him never lifted a finger.) My childhood was awesome & I was an honor student and stand-out athlete, until my mother started dating this tyrant. She immediately gave over complete control of my upbringing to him. (Btw, he has 3 children of his own that he willing gave up custody of and they all took different last names than his & have absolutely nothing to do with him.) He basically kept me locked in my room. I wasn't allowed a TV or radio anymore and was told daily how "bad" I was when in reality I really was a great kid. I was also told that I was a "liar". "Liar" became my new name to him, when the fact of the matter is that I was actually a pretty honest kid. He also told me stories about being in the mafia. I later saw Sopranos episodes that were the same scenarios that he said went on in his life. Of course, I realize he was just taking Sopranos episodes and making them about him & how would I be the wiser when I wasn't allowed to watch TV? Narcissists are flat-out evil! O & because of the terrible treatment I received at home and the fact that my own mother wouldn't stand up for me pushed me to leave home at 16 never to return. Fast forward to the present time, I am on great terms with my mother now because she finally had enough of my step-dad's lies and manipulations. They are still married but live separate lives from one another. O and I never regretted leaving home that early, however, I shudder when I think how much worse it may have gotten if I had stayed!
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