Knowledge is power. You have heard that many times.When it comes to a narcissist this is particularly important. When you begin to intuit that your spouse is a narcissist, pay attention. Then, do your homework and inform yourself about the serious nature of this severe personality disorder. Many women stay married to narcissistic men---Let's stay together for the children--We have a great lifestyle--There are no financial worries; I feel stable and secure. You can never be secure with a narcissist. They are never straight or true. They lie, cheat, convincingly put on the act of the "good person", They are connivers and schemers.
Narcissists are exceedingly greedy. They love money and the status that can bring them in business and social circles. Narcissists conceal their money from their spouses. They make secret deals. They are super controllers. If you don't protect yourself the narcissistic spouse will make all of the demands on you, treat you like dirt and eventually leave you. Narcissists change their wills without your knowledge. They buy and sell properties. They gamble it away. They are restless human beings that must always be entertained.
Protect yourself financially from your narcissistic spouse by insisting that you share all of the assets to which you are entitled. When the marriage goes south at least you will have the material means to take care of yourself. During a divorce in particular narcissists hide valuable assets and pretend that they are flat broke. They have been creating this scheme for a long time. Get ahead of them with your knowledge of their true nature, the assistance of highly informed professionals who can obtain the truth about your mutual finances and by keeping yourself psychologically and emotionally at a distance. These are tall orders but essential to your present and future. You are entitled financially, psychologically and emotionally to lead a life in which you use your potential, creative gifts, have meaningful relationships and feel deep inner peace. To learn about every facet of the narcissistic personality disorder, visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Don't Let Your Narcissistic Spouse Run Off with Your Assets
Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 4/5/2011 10:02 PM 
Categories: mental health, narcissistic spouse, interpersonal relationships, narcissistic personality, divorcing your narcissist, personality disorders, self help. mental health, narcissistic partner, narcissistic wife, narcissism, abusive relationships, narcissistic personality disorder
Tags: narcissistic schemers narcissists hide assets greedy narcissists
Categories: mental health, narcissistic spouse, interpersonal relationships, narcissistic personality, divorcing your narcissist, personality disorders, self help. mental health, narcissistic partner, narcissistic wife, narcissism, abusive relationships, narcissistic personality disorder
Tags: narcissistic schemers narcissists hide assets greedy narcissists
Married to an N for 30 years. Every article on this website is exactly what has happened to me. He systematically made the kids think I was worthless, and they treated me accordingly. If I wasnt cooking and cleaning and kissing all of their asses, they scowled at me. I finally grew some testicles and split, and beat him at his own game....I took the money, because I knew he was going to do it to me.I also knew it was going to be a long fight and I was a homemaker and needed the money to start my life over. I went through some horrible psychological withdrawals of anxiety attacks, crying fits, you name it, because of having no support and his threats. My kids betrayed me horribly, and I had to tell them to stay out of my life. It has been a hard 2 years, but now that I am stronger, it was well worth it to save my sanity. My biggest advice is to find God. Narcissists portray every trait of the DEVIL, and reading and learning the Bible keeps your mind in the TRUTH, and the truth does set you free. Thank you, Lord, for restoring my life.
My female Lawyer was an N also! But she wouldnt contest his lies in court, even when I told her what to say, she just wanted the paycheck. I had to fire her. My EX doesnt respect women, so he used her up in court like toilet paper.
My kids sat in court with him, but expected me to cower when they contacted me. They wanted the money.
I told them all that LOVE WITHOUT TRUST IS DEPENDENCE MASQUERADING AS LOVE. They can kiss off! I finally grew a backbone. I married the a-hole because my Mother was a full blown Narcissist with Borderline Personality Disorder! I would marry anyone to get out of the house, and I ended up with another Narcissist! And his family is full of Narcissists! I wondered what in hell is wrong with these people???? After 30 years of hell, remember that it is better to be alone and OK, then to be with that. Also, I read somewhere to BEWARE of ourselves when seeking a new mate.....we are always going to be automatically attracted to another N!!!!
Get some books about Boundaries and Co-Dependence, so we dont do it again to ourselves! Love Yourself, you are all you got! Discover yourself, you have been Missing in Action for a long time!
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