Are you the the brother or sister of a narcissistic sibling---that golden child that was picked early to be the king, queen, emperor or empress of the household. For many it started very early. The narcissistic mother or father focused on one child who seemed to have it all: good looks, a sharp mind, athletic skills, artistic talent, a winning personality--whatever it was that made this child a standout for the narcissist. Mother and/or father ignored the other children or treated them with punishments, disdain, humiliation and all kinds of cruel behavior. They were the inferiors in the family. In some cases the grandparents chime in and get in line with the parents. The narcissistic household is a war zone. It is pure hell to live in this so-called home. It doesn't get better when you grow up. The sabotage continues and for some becomes impossible. There is so much pain inflicted that some people cannot tolerate it. Some scapegoated children are haunted by their narcissistic siblings well into adulthood.
The best way to deal with narcissistic siblings is to become independent and strong yourself. Learn how to detach yourself from these destructive human beings. Learn everything you can about the narcissistic personality disorder. Give yourself credit for surviving this very difficult narcissistic family constellation. Be kind and supportive of yourself and find friends whom you can trust. And above all, honor yourself as you look forward to a life of creativity, productivity and inner peace. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Narcissistic Siblings Can Sabotage Your Life
Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 3/31/2011 1:27 PM 
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Categories: mental health, narcissistic parents, narcissistic fathers, self help. mental health, narcissistic mother, narcississtic personality, narcissistic personality, interpersonal relationships, abusive relationships, narcissistic wife, narcissistic siblings, narcissistic sister, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic spouse, personality disorders, narcissistic daughters, family relationships, narcissistic mothers, narcissistic family
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Thank you for this excellent post. What I am confused about are the reasons that are given for one child to be appointed the "Golden Child". My older sibling was not physically attractive,artistic or intellectual, except when it came to devising new crimes and abusive acts to commit and get away with. These were all traits that my narcissistic mother told others he had when in reality, he fell far short. I found the only reason he was chosen was because of his gender. NMom hated all women as she saw them as direct competition to her greatness above all women, including her own and only daughter. Not only was he appointed the golden child because of the male attention she craved and recieved from him, but also because she had a cohort in devising malicious and depicable plots against me.
Yes, she had a husband present, my father, but if there was ever a poster child for the perfect enabler, he was it. According to my mother, my father ( like me) could never do anything right, never knew what he was doing and she should have been with a "man" like her son. So perhaps Inappropriate Sexual Attraction to a child should be added to the list of the narcissists Golden Child appointees.
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