In a current society that accepts pathological narcissism as a norm in many circles, you wonder where there is a limit to the cruelties perpetrated on spouses, ex-spouses and family members. There is a continuum in pathological narcissism. Some narcissists are worse than others in the profoundly devastating effect they have on others. Every narcissist is strictly out for himself/herself and there is absolutely no empathy within them. They are all ruthless and self absorbed. But there is a group of these individuals who are committed to devastate the lives of others, especially those close to them: siblings, children, spouses. There are sociopathic narcissists who will not be satisfied until their "enemy" is completed vanquished---emotionally, psychologically, financially. They seek revenge, not for what has been done to them, but what they perceive in a highly deluded way, what has been done to them. Narcissists are never wrong--they are incapable of mistakes because they truly believe that they are perfect. They are capable of persuading even intelligent people that they are the good guy and their victim is the culprit. With the use of a fake charm, dynamism, sexual wiles, they fool most individuals. A sociopathic narcissist will tear you to shreds psychologically until you've got their number.
Never underestimate the extremes of the cruelties and treacheries---They don't care a damn about the damage that they create even on small children or helpless individuals.
Learn everything you can about the narcissistic personality disorder--study hard and understand these individuals like the back of your hand.
If you think they are finished hurting you, think again. The best thing that can happen to some people is to be discarded by a narcissist. This way they are out of your life and you can begin to recover.
Sociopathic narcissists provide us with opportunities to be tough, steady and consistent. We must use all of our mental discipline in dealing with them.
Use your intuition---that quiet voice that always speaks the truth---to guide your words and actions.
Keep yourself physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually strong (in the way that you understand this concept.)
Know that you will succeed. You survived your childhood. You can prevail now.
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Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Sociopathic Narcissists-Relentlessly Cruel
Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 1/3/2011 5:17 PM 
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It is so hard for some of us to understand why these people want to lash out and hurt us. Thank you so much for your insight, it has been so very helpful to me in that it has given me the strength to walk away from those that would hurt me. Not an easy thing to do when they are family or friends that I thought loved me. Thanks for what you do.
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A few of these articles made me burst in tears because their accuracy. I've experienced relentless mental, emotional and some physical cruelty from my NF growing up until I ran out the door. I have been close to my mother, but, over the last 2 decades I have noticed subtle, now not so subtle, changes in her behavior. She has been corrupted! Mean comments, hurtful blaming statements, distancing herself from me, starting arguments and not being there for her first grandchild. (Yet, stating over and over how much she loves him...) Sadly, my mother and my father have encouraged adult sibling rivalry so crippling we no longer wish each other Merry X-Mas. I decided to not contact my mother or father. We have not spoken in over 2 months, although she requests a return call. I believe my parents want me and my child available to hurt more... Thank you for your amazing articles. You understand the pain, grief, obsessive thinking and the sense loss caused by these brutal people who live to damage others. I am healing.
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Hi - Keep your children as far away as possible - they want access to your children only. I've been through this -it never goes away, the narcissist wants to reak havoc on you through your kids. Raising kids is hard enough without their input! Good luck
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I too suffered at the hands of a NF, and a sociopathic N mother. I am the oldest of 8 children. From childhood, I was scapegoated by my N-mother who was angry, bitter, cruel, and filled with hated for my father. My father had a sense of what I was going through, but his way of dealing with the problem was to dote on me. This made my mother jealous and she retaliated by terrorizing me with relentless abuse. In her self deluded mind, I "took sides against her for my no-good father". As a child she wanted me to listen to her tirades against him, and to take her side. My refusal, to her meant that I had turned against her. She never forgave me for this, despite the fact that this was inappropriate. Inspite of this, I was the only one that she could depend on at the age of 84. When I was a child, she would wake my younger siblings from sleep to physically assault me while she watched, because she couldn't manipulate me to do her wicked deeds. She along with my N sister, the golden child continued to torment and vexed me on a daily basis. On many occasions, she allowed my sister's friends to come over while I was at school, to steal clothings and toiletries I purchased. I could see that they were wearing my new clothing when I walked in the house. When I complained, my mother played the game of "gas-light" by stating "I didn't see you buy those clothes, when did you buy them?". I could hear them all in the kitchen laughing at me, as I became distraught. She was careful to not let others witness the physical abuse she inflicted. As an adult, my mother took pleasure in turning my siblings and anyone else she could against me. You couldn't confront her about her actions because she denied it and re-wrote history and played the victim using her physical illnesses to garner pity. When I finally mustered up the nerve to confront her over an issue that took place 30 years ago because I got tired of her lies to others that I had mistreated her and listening to her stories about how my "no-good father" and others have wrongly treated her, and how she never mistreated anybody. I reminded her of the time when I walked in on her as she tried to seduce my ex husband. Well all hell broke loose. She screamed, cursed, denied it, told the family what I accused her of and played the victim causing my siblings to verbally attack me. What is so strange about this is that my mother actually stole another sister's boyfriend during the time of my incident which my siblings were all aware of. Her actions caused me to become battered and broken since I could never disagree or defend myself against her. It was painful listening to her stories of victimization because she is oblivious to the pain she has caused others. I decided to cut her and my siblings off including my daughter who is N and influenced by my mother her N father who turned her against me because I wouldn't allow him to have N supply. He couldn't handle the fact that I moved on with my life when he left.
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God help you Adrienne. I know what you are going thru. I was raised in a healthy/normal family, but my husband's (NPD)family is extremely toxic. His mother is a narcissistic sociopath who everyone in the family attempts to appease (secretly knowing) that she is ruthless and will ruin them if they do not comply. Meanwhile, she targets who ever my husband is with (significant other), all the while playing the "victim." I will be #4 she has successfully banquished. My husband's ex-wife is one too....fully ruthless, aggressively destructive, uses others (like his mom) to do her dirty work and has no conscience at all (but quotes biblical scriptures). My husband has a child by this woman. So both parents are narcissists and the paternal grandmother as well.
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