Narcissistic Men Denigrate Women
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Narcissistic men are gifted seducers, magnetizing women to them so smoothly and easily. Narcissistic men are often physically attractive, bright, socially adroit and very self confident. Male narcissists both despise and fear women. They are incapable of loving them. One classic pattern begins with the narcissistic mother who chooses one son as her perfect puppet, a reflection of her perfection. Her little darling is picked to be the mother's psychological partner. The father is out of the picture. For this budding narcissist, there are no behavioral limits, no need for conscience, no rules. Everything is perfect as long as mother approves. Narcissistic men grow to be false selves. They are all image. They cannot be true to themselves or anyone else. Male narcissists denigrate women because they are unconsciously projecting their feelings of helplessness and rage felt toward mother on to their spouses. The narcissistic mother has psychologically emasculated her son. To protect yourself from marrying a narcissistic man, research and study the narcissistic personality disorder. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 9/17/2010 6:10 PM 
Categories: self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships
Tags: despise women mother's little darling narcissistic men emasculated men
Categories: self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships
Tags: despise women mother's little darling narcissistic men emasculated men
This article is so accurate! My husband is a NPD because his NPD mother created him. The statement "the narcissistic mother who chooses one son as her perfect puppet", describes his role with his mother perfectly. Because as you say, he had "no behavioral limits, no need for conscience, no rules" he lacks conscience completely and believes the earth revolves around him. He secretly hates any woman close to him...because he sees them as his controlling, abusive mother. Allowing a child to get away with anything at the expense of others is extremely abusive! Now, this wicked sociopathic mother of his, judges him, and says, "Why is he like this?" When she CREATED him herself. Now, she plays the innocent lamb, martyr who did "all she could do" but he "just didn't turn out the ways she wanted." And, my husband now "punishes" women for the constant military style, have to be perfect mess, his mother placed on him. He analyzes everything I do, wants to control everything and lacks any empathy at all. We have been estranged from his NPD mother for years, yet she still has a hold on him, fully. He is psychologically a basket case and is "flipped upside" down in his thinking...i.e. distrusts those who are close to him and has his best interest at heart...and trust all enemies and strangers and will literally give his social security number to a stranger if they "seem nice." She really did a screw job on him. And, I'm making plans to end my marriage, so no doubt he will move on to the next woman/victim and do the same thing to them. I actually loved this man...but real love is nothing that a NPD cares about or even recognizes, because of the warped messages they received in their dysfunctional rearing.
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Hi yes my ex is NPD of the emasculated type. He didnt even like sex. He either was critical, rude if I was not mirroring or adoring him, or he was trying to please me, to be the same as "mummies" relationship with him. I broke up with mine, instinctivly as I wasnt able to get anything other than a superficial relationship with him. We continued to share a house, as his mother died and my business was there. I got the un pleasure to see him woo some one else, it was then it made sense seeing it happen to some one else. The maniuplation. Him making himself to fit with her like he did me, so that we think they just happen to have everything in common, and love us. He would massage my feet for hours, but after months, the lack of empathy, freindship didnt make up for the pleasing things he tried to do. He never was himself, and it also was always about him, and control. It was very very frustrating. I have done therapy for 10 years, and my own mother was a destructive Narcissit. My therapist is a Gestalt therapist so she never answers questions for me unless I ask them. It took me 9 years to ask if my mother had a problem, I then had a spate of Narciisssits in my life to learn from. My ex was the last one I figured out. He is now misleading this new woman too, in the same way. He uses a mix of some truth, and charm. I can now, hear it in his voice. The whole time I went out with him, I sensed something a miss, and finally I know why. I am fortunate we wont be under the same roof again, and I will never to have this type of attraction ever again. I will find some one capable of being friends with me. thanks.
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