There is a trend among some partners and spouses of narcissists. When the relationship goes south, many of these individuals invite narcissists back into their lives. The result is tremendous psychological pain. Each time you let a narcissistic spouse or partner back into your life, you are reinforcing this behavior. Narcissists are highly persuasive. It is not unusual for them to talk their emotionally injured spouse or spouse right back into "perfect couple" mode. As the partner or spouse of a narcissist, you have been chosen to bolster the narcissist''s image and act as a living narcissistic supply, enhancing his or her ego. Many individuals are so seduced by the narcissist that they continue to live in the shadow of his delusion. They believe that they are leading an exciting life with the narcissist that they never want to end. In the beginning of a relationship with a narcissistic spouse, the partner often overlooks the many red flags that are waving in front of his or her face: self absorption, extreme self entitlement, manipulations, lies, deceits, a lack of empathy. Children of narcissistic parents can be particularly vulnerable to marrying a narcissist and maintaining this dysfunctional relationship since it represents what has been familiar to them since early childhood. It was an essential part of the landscape of their inner world.

I have communicated with many individuals who have taken back their narcissistic spouses many times, even though it cost them severe personal damage. They are repeating a destructive cycle. If you are becoming aware or have already suspected for some time that you are married or partnered with a narcissist, do your research. Study the narcissistic personality deeply. Recognizing that you are involved with this kind of individual is mentally clarifying and helpful in making a decision about your future relationship with this person. Once you know that your present spouse or partner is a narcissist, it is never too late to refuse to take them back into your life. Make the decision that is best for you. To learn about every facet of the narcissistic personality disorder, visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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