Don't Let Narcissists Get under Your Skin
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Narcissists, especially those who are very successful professionally and socially, have mastered all of the moves that draw individuals to them. If they want something from you, they fix their attention on you like a laser beam.As they are sweeping you off your feet, they already know what role you will play in their lives to get exactly what they want. When you recognize that the person with whom you are involved is a narcissist, you will find that he or she is getting under your skin. He is controlling your behavior, telling you how to act or even what to say,making impossible demands on your time and energy, criticizing you no matter how well friends treat him or her, making demeaning and humiliating comments about you, sabotaging you with your friends through lies and innuendos. Don't let the narcissist take over your life.
Learn to stand your ground with these individuals. Let the narcissist know that you are a separate individual who deserves respect. Develop a practice of calming and stillness. This can take many forms, sitting meditation, yoga, concentration, walking meditation, affirmations, prayer. Get the amount of physical exercise you need and enjoy that helps you to build and maintain your physical strength. Physical vitality helps to maintain mental and psychological stability. Whey you stand steady on the ground of your own being, the narcissist's ability to sway you will diminish and fade away. This requires practice and dedication to yourself. This is a process that you attend to each day as you grow and evolved mentally, physically, psychologically and in the way that is meaningful to you, spiritually. Always remember to honor yourself in word and deed. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation:United States and International
Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 6/6/2010 4:29 PM 
Categories: self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships
Tags: self confiden meditation magnetic psychological boundaries charming yoga physical exercise narcissists prayer psychological pain grow spiritually
Categories: self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships
Tags: self confiden meditation magnetic psychological boundaries charming yoga physical exercise narcissists prayer psychological pain grow spiritually
"Don't let the narcissist take over your life."
So much easier said than done, but you know this, Dr. Linda, because you have dealt with these people. Extensively. Exhaustively, no doubt.
It's especially difficult not to let the narcissist take over your life if you were the child of a narcissist. They have programmed you or brainwashed you into playing the role they have created for you.
Breaking away is a painful process, but what is the alternative? To live a life "in the web," controlled and manipulated by them? It's a dark existence. It's life in the shadows, as Dr. Linda has so adequately described.
Re-birth is painful. It is learning how to reform one's life. But along with the pain comes an exhilaration that you are starting fresh, unencumbered by the past. Free of demons. Free to fly. ~Donna
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Donna, I just had to respond to your comment. Re-birth is painful, I am in the process of moving towards leaving my narcissistic husband.I really can,t take it anymore.Leaving is painful,but I have to do it for my life.We have been married 6 years.The relationship became toxic very early on.I thought it was me.I went to counseling.I tried everything to make my marraige loving and kind but it didn,t work.One day a good friend who happens to be a psychologist asked me if I had ever heard of narcissim or NPD. After that day I started researching the disorder and sure enough my husband fits all of the classic symtoms of a narcissist and borderline personality disordered individual.I have been through so many different emotions about what to do.I love my husband but I most leave so that I can live.It is painful, confusing and heartbreaking for me.However,now that I know I have to get away from him.Information is power.
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