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There are many roads that lead to the tyranny of a narcissistic chid. The research and clinical study on the subject of the formation of the narcissistic character structure centers around the earliest years when the child's personality is forming. I have known of many cases in which the young future budding narcissist was ruling the entire household, including the parents by the ge of four or five. In some cases the parents are unable to set boundaries and appropriate standards of behavior for these very willful children. Instead of recognizing that the family is now rules by a young tyrant, the parents make excuses for these inappropriate behaviors. They are in denial about the severity of the problem and rationalize that it is easier and more peaceful to go along with the wishes and demands of their child than to confront them and teach them that they are required to respect their parents and siblings and learn to develop self control and empathy for others. Some parents refuse or neglect to obtain quality psychotherapy for their young children.

I hear from siblings of tyrannical narcissistic children who have been treated brutally fthrougout their childhood and adult years. Belittling, taunting, humiliations, threats---these are the weapons that the narcissistic child uses to erode and eclipse any sense of confidence or stability in the targeted sibling. In some instances the narcissistic child carries these vendettas of hatred well into adulthood, making the lives of their siblings miserable and often intolerable.  Some of these children leave the family home early, separate their lives from these abusive environments, discover their gifts and potential and realize that they are worthy of being treated with respect, affection and compassion. Some adult children find healing in psychotherapy, spiritual journeys and self analysis and learn that they are unique individuals with great value and many creative gifts. This is a magnificent accomplishment that we can all applaud. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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