Reclaiming Your Self Entitlement
Download | Duration: 00:03:24
Narcissists are extraordinarily self entitled. It doesn't matter whether they deserve what they demand or not, they will get what they want; you can be sure of this. Self entitlement is part of their personality structure. From the time they were very young, budding narcissists learned that their wishes were everyone else's commands. If they were raised as the golden child, the parents picked them to be the star of the family and taught them early to be exceedingly self entitled. The other siblings were treated differently, despite their accomplishments, fine character qualities or talents. The injustice of the difference in treatment of children within the same family does not go unnoticed. The narcissist pays no attention to how his siblings are being ignored and mistreated. Often these children blame themselves for not being good enough. They feel defective and inferior.
Those who have gone through the narcissistic wars draw a clear line, stating that they will no longer be treated with disrespect, constant demands, outlandish humiliations and manipulations. They free themselves from the narcissist. In it's place they reconstruct their lives, finding freedom, creativity and peace in the process of becoming their true selves. Along with this these individuals rediscover a robust sense of self entitlement---the permission to live an evolving, creative, expanding and peaceful inner life, filled with richness of their unique being and a circle of friends with whom they share and contribute to one another's lives. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation
Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 5/21/2010 10:20 AM 
Categories: self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships
Tags: reclaiming your self entitlement star of the family siblings mistreated narcissistic self entitlement budding narcissist
Categories: self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships
Tags: reclaiming your self entitlement star of the family siblings mistreated narcissistic self entitlement budding narcissist
Quote from this post-- "Narcissists are extraordinarily self-entitled. It doesn't matter whether they deserve what they demand or not, they will get what they want; you can be sure of this. Self entitlement is part of their personality structure. From the time they were very young, budding narcissists learned that their wishes were everyone else's commands."
Just incredible to me. My narcissist-sister thinks not only does the world revolve around her, the world owes her a living. She doesn't need to work because she's "special." Of course she does work, but only part time in order to pay the minimum on her credit cards, which she has maxed to the max.
One of the most unbelievable thoughts my N-sister related to me recently was that a guy owed her thousands of dollars because "he was just a rube that lived in the sticks and didn't need money anyway. What could he possibly spend it on?"
Never mind he earned it. Never mind she didn't. That, to my N-sister, was irrelevant. She needed the money and he didn't. So therefore, she was entitled to it. What kind of crazy rationale is that? These people really do exist in another universe. And as the famous psychologist Masterson said, they have Swiss cheese for brains. There is no reason, no common sense-- just holes where logic should be.
Dr. Linda is so spot-on with this comment. These people are all about take, take, take. They wake up every day and say "What special thing will happen to me today because I'm 'special'?" And they look to other people to pay the tab, to pick up the pieces when the trail derails.
There is never any planning. There is never any forward-thinking. It's all about them and what they can get right here, right now. (And how clever they must feel when they outwit or con.)
But what a life of insecurity and emptiness. Truly a shallow existence. I refuse to be a part of it anymore. ~Donna
Reply to this