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Many of those who contact me or make comments on the blog have no ideas that they were involved with a narcissist. That is a testament to their extraordinary persuasive powers. their attractiveness that fuses us to them and the excitement and deep childhood wish to be adored and share our lives with them. The narcissist's psychological grip on his spouses and partners is based on his/her powerful delusion that he is superior, has ultimate control over others and that his possibilities are limitless. When you enter a serious relationship with a narcissist, you are being asked to share this grandiose delusion. Many spouses find themselves irresistibly pulled into the gravitational force of the narcissist's larger than life world.  Other spouses recognize that they are trapped, sharing the narcissist''s delusion. These spouses realize that they have discarded their true identities long ago to become psychologically fused with someone who suffers from narcissistic personality disorder.

Some spouses decide that they have had enough. They will no longer live to obey the strict rules of a cruel, controlling master. They will not accept existing only as a small fragment of themselves. These spouses sever their relationships with the narcissistic spouse. The hard work of moving through the divorce process is worth the freedom claimed at the other end. Many of my blog readers report that they now celebrate living each moment on their own terms. They can now breathe deeply, they are content, excited and unencumbered for the first time in their lives. Their creativity is awakening one very level; their confidence is fully restored; they feel solid and psycholologically steady. They are the author, writer and director of their own lives.  This a triumph worthy of great celebration. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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