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The difference between adults breaking vows or marriages going wrong and breaking up families is tremendous. Children are helpless; they depend on us, especially very small children for their very lives. When I speak with individuals married to narcissists who have children I hear a lot of pain. They are suffering from narcissistic abuse: constant tirades, lying, deceitfulness, psychological power games. When the marriage has become impossible and divorce is imminent, the narcissist begins his devastating control and intimidation tactics. He or she feels compelled to put on the facade of being a perfect parent by demanding co-custody of his kids. The narcissist doesn't love or care about his children. They fit into his perfect image as a good father or mother. In court the narcissist will attempt to wear down the former spouse, drag out the court proceedings and as a result spend huge attorneys fees,not because he loves his children one wit, but due to his pathological need to control his ex-spouse and children. If they have money, they plan to wipe out their spouse monetarily, use the children as trophies so that  they can manipuate them completely. These are stark realities that I hear every day about the narcissistic non-parent and the damage that he/she does to his children. Learn to protect yourself from the narcissist, and if you are married to one and have children, the strategies and interventions, you can use to protect them.Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com />
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com