Narcissists Intend To Break You
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Relationships with narcissists in every venue eventually turn ugly. Some women and men become their psychological possessions for life. They have given themselves to the narcissistic ego, relinquishing their individuality, personal freedom, creative gifts and power, even their physical vitality. If you choose to leave the narcissist, be prepared for a battle royale. In some instances the narcissist wants to get rid of you and the kids--they have found a more compliant partner. In other cases the narcissist becomes totally vindictive. Prepare in advance for the battle. Shore up your internal resources of self. You have control over how you perceive and react to the narcissist. Know him or her better than he knows himself. Organize an active support system--trusted friends, a skilled attorney and if you are spiritually inclined--ground yourself each day in a practice of your choosing. Know that you will be victorious in leading your life in freedom, creativity and inner peace. To learn more about the intricacies of the narcissistic personality disorder and how to deal with them, visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 4/29/2010 9:43 AM 
Categories: self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships
Tags: personal freedom battle royale stand your ground narcissist's iron grip being victorious vindictive inner peace narcissistic ego support system
Categories: self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships
Tags: personal freedom battle royale stand your ground narcissist's iron grip being victorious vindictive inner peace narcissistic ego support system
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"Organize an active support system--trusted friends, a skilled attorney and if you are spiritually inclined--ground yourself each day in a practice of your choosing."
And, as Dr. Linda has said, if you stand in the presence of a narcissist, ground yourself in your own reality. I didn't exactly know what she meant by that until recently, but now I understand. If you have a hope of escaping from the narcissist's web, you must exist in your world, not theirs. I had been so conditioned/brainwashed as a child to exist in the pretend worlds created by my N-mother and N-sister, that it had become a huge part of my world. They had managed, through manipulation, to merge my reality with their pseudo-reality. Once I decided to distance myself, I became firm in my resolve to stay in my own world-- a world that is real-- not the narcissists' ridiculous, self-absorbed, pretend world. Dr. Linda's technique, of mentally "grounding yourself in your own reality," works. It is very freeing and empowering to reclaim your world. How exactly do you do this? Refuse to play the part they have designated for you to play. Refuse to be a part of their fake world. Educate yourself on manipulation tactics and how to counter them. Dr. Linda's book and this blog have been essential to me in this regard. Peace out. ~Donna
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