Narcissist-Predator of the Heart
Download | Duration: 00:02:39
Those who live with or are married to narcissists have been psychologically wounded. The narcissist takes what he or she wants from us and discards the rest. The narcissist forces those close to im to play assigned parts. Some escape imprisonment by the narcissist by staying in touch with the deepest, authentic parts of themselves. To learn more about the multiple facets of the narcissistic personality and how to maintain and expand your sacred sense of self, visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation
Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 4/12/2010 12:23 PM 
Categories: self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships
Tags: sense of self narcissist predator narcissistic personality narcissistic delusions
Categories: self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships
Tags: sense of self narcissist predator narcissistic personality narcissistic delusions
Although I'm not married to a narcissist, narcissists play a big role in my life, as my mother and sister are narcissists.
I think they want your heart because they have none. As Dr. Linda has said, they want to "steal your life." A big part of this is stealing your heart. I am currently trying to distance myself from my N-mother and N-sister and it's difficult, because I have to guard against becoming like them-- cold, heartless and cruel.
I find the best way to protect my heart is to not allow them to force me into the role they created for me as a child. The role my mother created for me was the "fix-it child." If something was wrong with mamma, I needed to fix it. If I didn't, I was bad.
The role my sister (the golden child) created for me was "adoring sister." Up until recently, I synchronized my watch when she was coming to town. When my N-mother announced the arrival of my N-sister (she lives hundreds of miles away), it was a "big event." The red carpet was to be rolled out and all activity was to halt in anticipation of the "Golden One."
With Dr. Linda's help, I have realized that the way to get away from these people is to shift the spotlight off them and onto you. They can't stand it if you aren't a player in their drama anymore. It confuses them and, ultimately, causes them to skitter away like pale shadows that are engulfted by the night. ~Donna
Reply to this