Narcissists-Not Capable of Intimacy
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The capacity for intimacy begins wehn the child is very young. It starts with a loving consistent attachment to mother (or the primary caregiver). True intimacy can only develop if the child has become differentiated from the mother or primary caregiver. The narcissist develops a false grandiose self. This child is not loved for himself but was forced to play the role of narcissistic supply to sustain parental egos. True intimacy takes place in the recognition, respect and love that occurs when two separate individuated individuals form a lovng sustained reciprocal union. True intimacy promotes the evolution of the self in each of the individuals involved while it brings the two together to create new sources of insight, spiritual growth, renewed hope and an expanding panoply of limitless reserves of creativity and seeds of growth on every level. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 4/7/2010 9:15 AM 
Categories: self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships
Tags: false grandiose self insight spiritual growth narcissistic supply budding narcissist incapable of intimacy true intiacy
Categories: self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships
Tags: false grandiose self insight spiritual growth narcissistic supply budding narcissist incapable of intimacy true intiacy
Intimacy is a very timely topic for me. I am a product of a family struck with intimacy phobia. Even the mere mention of the word "intimacy" caused turmoil and commotion.
It has been a life-struggle for me to overcome the ways -- let me count the grains of sand -- intimacy phobia manifests in all my affairs. I have lost out on so much as a result. I have no regrets, however, because it took what it took for me to heal enough to face this emotional, psychological and interpersonal insufficiency and try to grow beyond it. The impact of narcissism on the course of human development, I believe, is and will continue to be profound. I say that as one human whose life has been effected by one aspect of its impact, "scrambled eggs for brains." lol Thank you for this important contribution to the resources available to the self-healing community.
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