Narcissists Expect Continuous Praise and Adulation
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Narcissists expect a continuous flow of praise and adulation coming from others. It is their lifeline. The slightest interruption in this tide is disturbing to the narcissist. He or she can feel slighted or express uncontrollable rage. Some of those in the narcissist's inner circle find that they are squaundering their own lives and exit from his. Others are psychologically fused to the narcissist like helpless children. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Posted by LindaMartinezLewi at 3/27/2010 3:13 PM 
Categories: self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships
Tags: praise narcissist's inner circle hate-filled enemies adulation psychologically fused uncontrollable rage
Categories: self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships
Tags: praise narcissist's inner circle hate-filled enemies adulation psychologically fused uncontrollable rage
It's always about them. Always. Years past, before I discovered the term "narcissist" and researched the term, and started on my journey to understand them and distance myself from them, I understood this: My narcissistic mother gave me one sentence.
That's right-- I got one sentence, as did my husband. At Thanksgiving dinners, at Christmas gatherings, at family reunions, I was awarded, by my narcissistic mother, only one sentence. She would invariably ask, "How are you?"
I would attempt to answer. Or, if the question was directed at my husband, he would attempt to answer. It was a futile exercise. My N-mother would cut me, or my husband, off after one sentence, usually with comments like "Did you know I won Best in Show last week? (she was an artist), or "Would you like more turkey?" (she prided herself on her cooking.)
Any attempt at trying to impart to her part of your life was met with abrupt cutoff. This was the way I grew up. Dinners were to be endured. No conversation between mother, father and children. Eat your food and clear the table. "Cold embrace," as Dr. Linda has so adequately described the dynamics of narcissist mothers, enabling fathers and their children.
The only time my mother was happy-- which wasn't really happy, just "giddy," was if she won an award for her artwork at a show.
As Dr. Linda says, children of narcissistic parents have to understand the disorder. That's the first step in trying to distance yourself. And her advice about taking care of yourself is spot-on. There is help, like on this blog. My heart goes out to all the wounded children of narcissists, but a strong spirit will prevail. -- Donna
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