"The narcissist has an incredible sense of self entitlement. Everything is about him and belongs to him.  He smoothly oversteps the personal boundaries of others, mistreating, devaluing and humiliating them to bend to his will and his desires." (From Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life)   This is the overblown extreme delusional self entitlement of the narcissist that disrupts and intrudes on the lives of everyone, especially those closest to him/her: spouses, children, siblings, friends.

Many of those who share their lives with narcissists by marriage or bloodline have an underactive sense of self entitlement.  Many surrounding the narcissist are psychologically fused with him and share his identity rather than claiming their own.  They have relinquished their lives and individuality to join the narcissist's golden circle.

Respond to the narcissist with your healthy self entitlement---a clear sense of worthiness and respect for yourself as an individual.  Healthy self entitlement begins with fostering the following qualities:

Accept your imperfections and use them creatively
Draw clear psychological boundaries between yourself and others
Appreciate the full spectrum of your life---positive and negative experiences--and build upon them  
Remove self punishment, self doubt and self blame from your living vocabulary
Learn how to rest, be and breathe. (Progress does not mean constant motion)
Become receptive to the spontaneous gift of the moment 

To learn more about the specific psychodynamics, childhood roots and hidden agendas of the narcissistic personality disorder, visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com 


Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com