Most people feel uncomfortable when they lie. They feel shaky, ashamed, nervous, stomach-turning conscience has been struck. By the age of three the psychologically healthy child has developed a primitive conscience. By seven or eight the conscience in most children has been formed. Conscience develops as a result of parental influence, the laying down of moral standards from the time of a child's birth. The parent teaches his child through example and very specific communications the nature of right and wrong, the distinctions between telling the truth and lying. 

In the narcissist conscience remains undeveloped. The budding narcissist learns from his parent(s) that he or she has no limits. The driving force of life is to reach your goal before anyone else---to be a winner, no matter what it takes. Omitting the truth, shading the truth and outright lying become part of the narcissist's repertoire in dealing with other individuals.Telling the truth is inconvenient. Lying is the quickest route to the goal line. The narcissist is unburdened by conscience. "He knows he can lie and get away with it...Lying is a free ride in the fast lane that will get him to his destination more directly than telling the truth. ...The narcissist looks you right in the eye and lies without hesitation. He is a master at justifying lies to himself."(From:Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life)

Once you know that your spouse, parent, sibling, friend is a narcissistic personality, never be surprised by their mastery of lying. Don't be taken in. The narcissist has been practicing the art of lying all of his life. Chronic lying builds on itself and becomes easier as time moves on and the perfidies mount. Can you have an authentic relationship with a person who is continually lying to you? To obtain more specific information about the personality characteristics of the narcissist, visit my website:

www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.

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