Call it intuition, precognition, wisdom, the inner voice---each one of us has access to insight and truth that comes through when the mind is quiet. Getting in touch and maintaining communication with this part of you is invaluable in dealing with narcissistic personalities. There is discipline involved in learning to use and apply these gifts. Take time each day---it can be a few minutes---to go to a specific place (indoors or outside) that is quiet and where you will be uninterrupted. Sit comfortably with your spine straight but relaxed. You can use a chair or arrange cushions and sit in an easy pose with your legs comfortably crossed. The most important points are: be consistent, go to the same place each time, be unjudgmental.  One of the best ways to start is by taking a few deep (inhaling and exhaling) breaths through the nose. Do this in the way that is best for you. With your eyes closed and gazing at the point between the eyebrows, watch your breath---the inhale and exhale, at the tip of your nostrils. This is the oldest form of meditation called vapasanna. You may find that different forms of mediation work for you: using a mantra, for example.

Consistent practice will attune you to the inner voice that will change the way that you deal with narcissists.  Meditation is grounding. It stabilizes the mind and body. Meditation practice as it builds over time, strengthens and expands the capacity for deep intuition. It provides us with a clear perspective for understanding and dealing with the psychopathology of the narcissist. Since we cannot change the narcissist, our role is to transform ourselves into mindful individuals who are working toward inner peace and equanimity each day. To learn more about the narcissistic personality disorder and how to deal with these individuals, visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.

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