When the divorce is final, the real work of healing begins. This is a process not measured in days or weeks but rather occurs moment by moment. The first step starts with a commitment to self healing. It is time for self care, meaning a respect for oneself that focuses on your emotional, physical and psychological well being. Find a form of exercise that works for you. If you are walking, begin with small time increments--five minutes, ten minutes. Be aware of your physical limitations. Some individuals start with gentle stretching movements that free the body from stiffness and stress. Set up a time each day for being with yourself in a quiet uninterrupted setting. Five minutes will work. Choose how you want to create moments of peace for yourself---where you don't have to go anywhere or fulfill any obligations to others. This can take many forms: inspirational reading, favorite calming music,chanting, relaxation through breathing techniques,brief meditation, gentle yoga poses. Maintain contact with a few individuals who are worthy of your trust. It doesn't take a group. It begins with one empathic person who cares deeply about you.  It is worth taking the time to build these relationships. It make take a lot of searching but the rewards of authentic friendship are limitless. Above all, be patient, unjudgmental and kind to yourself. Visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com