Sharing your life with a narcissist, especially if you are married to one of these individuals, is stressful by definition. They demand your constant attention. They are very high maintenance, especially on the nerves. Narcissists have psychological boundary issues---Your time is their time, even if you are feeling ill. They won't except "no" for an answer. Most spouses give in to them because they are intimidated by the narcissist's fits of volcanic rage. 

If you are married to a narcissist and have decided to stay with him or her, take good care of yourself. I suggest that you make a promise to yourself that you will take regular periods of time-out" from your spouse. This can mean any number of opportunities for you to experience individual freedom. It can take many forms: physical exercise which raises your endorphin levels and elevates your mood, yoga classes which  relax and restore every organ and system in the body, including the mind and psyche, walks in nature where many find peace and renewal, the comforting and stimulating company of trusted friends who care deeply about you and are a solid source of support, creative projects that bring you tremendous satisfaction, re-focusing on your professional career and making a shift in your professional life by charting a new course through formal education and training.

You may be married to a narcissistic spouse but you are not his possession. You have and deserve a separate life and destiny that belongs to you. Assert yourself and demonstrate a healthy sense of self entitlement. Everything that is worthwhile and leads to our personal growth is not easy but essential to our evolution as individuals. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com