The narcissist's reality is based on his or her image, the impression he is making upon others. Narcissists are very particular about their persona: personal appearance, attire, their homes, furnishings, cars, career and social status. For the narcissist the image he projects and his sense of self are identical. A narcissist can be very bright and achieve great material success, but beneath the surface of this knowledge and accomplishment, these individuals are superficial. Narcissists are incapable of looking at themselves realistically. They view themselves as perfect and superior. There is no room for self examination. Narcissists are extremely critical of others and berate them constantly. Even if you perform a task perfectly, it is never enough for the narcissist. His demands are outrageous. Some of those involved with narcissists believe that his/her criticisms are valid and suffer emotionally as a result of their demeaning and cruel treatment.

It is important to learn to recognize the narcissistic personality. He or she has a very convincing outer shell. He can appear to be warm and friendly, even magnetic. All of this is part of the elaborate mask that the narcissist wears. Beneath the surface the narcissist experiences an intolerable emptiness. Within this emptiness are deep feelings of self loathing. These toxic feelings are often projected on to those who are closest to the narcissist: spouses, children, ex-spouses, family members, friends.

The narcissist's shining gold image is a thin veneer. There is no substance beneath the attractive surface, no empathy in this character, no compassion in this heart. Learn how to specifically identify the narcissistic personality and develop strategies for handling these individuals. Visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.

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