I am sending a special message of praise to daughters of narcissistic mothers. I am deeply moved by these daughters of survival who write to me about their horrific ordeals and chronic traumas perpetrated by cold, controlling, manipulative, treacherous narcissistic mothers. I have studied the psychodynamics of the narcissistic mother and the lack of attachment with her daughter.  Researching theory and understanding studies is a necessary foundation for understanding what these daughters endure. But the most compelling truths come from the words--written and spoken--of these brave souls. So often I hear:"My mother didn't give a damn about me. She told me she wished I had never been born." "My mother said she was sorry that she hadn't aborted me." "My mother kicked me out of the house when I was sixteen years old. She was too busy partying with her boyfriends. She told me to leave and never come back."  "My narcissistic mother adored my brother; she believed he was a god. She treated me like dirt and never protected me when my brother would beat me up." "My mother never paid any attention to me. I was raised by nannies. Thank God, some of them were very devoted. Mom only paid attention to me when it mattered for her public image as a perfect parent."  These life stories are moving and profound. 


Daughters who survive these extreme psychological ordeals of childhood, adolescence and adulthood  are  truly victorious human beings. So many of them who write to me have moved forward with the help of  psychotherapy and spiritual development to redefine themselves as solid compassionate productive human beings who are capable of both giving and receiving love. I offer you my deep respect and applaud  your perseverance, emotional strength, maintaining your humanity. You are beautiful embodied souls. You restore our sense of hope and a profound belief in the power and resilience of the human spirit. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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