Narcissists Tell Convincing Lies
Narcissists are masterful liars. They are brazen and glib with their lies. Clever narcissists get away with their mendacity because it is second nature to them. They cut their teeth on learning how to lie by omission or commission. When most of us lie, we squirm. The narcissist luxuriates in the lies that he uses to defeat his personal and professional opponents. Since he or she does not have a developed conscience, a lie here and there is an advantage to reaching his goal faster than anyone else.
Narcissistic lying becomes very ugly during the divorce process. The narcissist often spreads rumors about his former partner that are outrageous, damaging and completely untrue. Because his powers of persuasion are so highly developed many narcissists convince others that their spouse is to blame for all the chaos caused by the divorce. I have had non narcissistic spouses tell me that their narcissistic partner told large numbers of their acquaintances and family members that his husband or wife was mentally unstable, alcoholic, a drug addict, an irresponsible parent who was incapable of taking care of their children, promiscuous---the cruel litany of accusations and fabrications is endless. The narcissist is very believable to most people. He or she knows just what words to use, the right approach to take and the masterfully persuasive manner that will win others to his/her side.
To prevail psychologically and emotionally when a narcissist is off on one of his missions to tear you down, flex you muscles, recognize your strength and integrity to defeat this coward, turn to a small group of close friends worthy of your trust and discuss this matter with your therapist and the attorney who is representing you. It is vital that you be legally represented by an attorney who is highly experienced and sophisticated in dealing with these highly manipulative and exploitive individuals in the thickets of domestic issues. Draw on all of your strengths. You will be surprised at the resources you have access to deep inside that have remained dormant. Bring them out of the shadows, dust them off, shine them up and look forward to victory. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Categories: divorce, self help, narcissism, mental health, interpersonal relationships, narcissist
Tags: lack of conscience masterful liars emotional strength
I agreed with you as I have watched my narcissistic wife. She would lie about everything so easily. I finally confronted her about lying. It is painful for her to unmask herself and admit her "pathological lying." She started to try to hide herself as I'm able to unmask her effectively. She became very shaken. (Narcissistic Rage)
Thank for bring this up. I have started to see all the connections much more clearly now.
Thanks,
JB
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Wow, JB, Way to go! You're incredibly strong and my hat is off to you. My question is: What are you going to do now that the pieces are coming together?
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I've been reading your blog entries all evening and they're absolutely wonderful. As the daughter of a Narcissist who finally decided I had to go "no contact" or kill myself - I thank you from the bottom of my heart!
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I recently came across your website and have been reading along. I thought I would leave my first comment. I don't know what to say except that I have enjoyed reading. Nice blog. I will keep visiting this website very often.
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Wow, JB, Way to go! You're incredibly strong and my hat is off to you. My question is: What are you going to do now that the pieces are coming together?
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Lynne and ginnap,
Answer to your question:
Finally, I got connecting the dots to puzzle. I'm able to see several Linda's entries fit my ex-NPD's profiles. She had affairs with four different men in two years. We both finally got divorced last month.
Ex-NPD wife still continues to abuse with current married guy who is still working on getting a divorce from his wife. I'm really glad that I'm out of this and let him to be the next guy's victim as he had no clue how she had been treating him. This guy is her narcissistic supply.
I have been confirming everything that Linda wrote that matches ex-NDP's.
I'm very thankful for her wisdom that helps me to ground myself and enables me to get out of her abusive behavior.
JB
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Thanks for taking the time to discuss this, I feel strongly about it and love learning more on this topic.
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