Physicians rotate the time when they are on call. They do not work twenty four hours a day every day. Some surgical specialties require many hours in the operating theatre at a time--10-12 hours or more. That is the exception. Private physicians expect and deserve to have time away from practice to be with their families and enjoy uninterrupted periods of solitude or actiivities with friends.
There is neither solitude,  leisure, peace or breathing space when you are married to a narcissist. There are constant demands, frenetic activity, dramatic tirades, spiteful criticisms, and perpetual rancor. The energy field around a narcissist with whom you live is psychologically toxic. The narcissist imposes an emotional and psychological pall over the people who live with him/her, especially his spouse and children. There is no peace. If it is quiet for a while, you know that in the next moment there will be a flash of temper that will bring down the walls of your temple of calm. Narcissists are restless creatures, never still, always at work plotting and planning.

If you are a spouse, your life script is written by the narcissist;  he is directing you in every scene and each camera shot. He will not allow you to alter his precious script even if it means that following his will threaten your psychological and/or physical health. If you go along with his plans and ploys, you have become his puppet and victim. 

Some spouses unconsciously decide that it is their role to live alongside the narcissist and give up their freedom, time, inner peace and creative potential because they have no other recourse. Others are desperate and unable to disconnect from the narcissist because their dread of being alone brings feelings of psychological annihilation.  Some spouses make a deal with themselves. They will put up with all of the drama and abuse for social stature and lifestyle perks and privileges as well as financial security. Financial security becomes  the linchpin that  keeps these spouses in poisonous unions with narcissists. They have told themselves that there are no other alternatives. Women who have been in lengthy marriages to narcissistic men keenly sense that their options for creating a separate life are very limited. So they stay on and try to make peace with their fateful decision.

When you throw you life in with a narcissist it is a 24/7 sentence, indefinitely. There are no breaks. The narcissistic spouse invades your dreams at night and your fantasies during the day. Learn more about freeing yourself from psychological imprisonment with a narcissistic spouse. Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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