This is an exceedingly painful time for many individuals on every level--economic,psychological,emotional,physical. Narcissists don't want to hear bad news. This means they don't want to have anything to do with someone else's pain, unless it is their own. Then, the juggernaut bursts and they become histrionic and melodramatic about the slightest loss in the market, a business deal that didn't meet their exact specifications, a spouse who isn't perfect, a child who didn't get admitted to Harvard. Narcissists are among the most insensitive and unempathic human beings on the face of  the earth.

There are great exceptions--- those of material means who are giving with open hands and ministering to people who are suffering huge losses. They are creatively building networks of care to the most desperate. They do all of this without fanfare or ceremony. They quietly and unobtrusively go about their work.   

Many wealthy narcissists believe that they are impoverished, especially now. High level narcissists are tightening their grip, pulling into themselves, unwilling to share the fruits of their extraordinary success. Many of them are looking for desperate people to victimize. Narcissists are ruthless, especially when others who are not within their charmed circle are hurting. Narcissists are  bottom feeders, greedily picking up the scraps of destroyed lives. They blame those who have "failed."  It is their fault; they didn't work hard enough; they were lazy and foolish. Wealthy narcissists have so many reasons to despise those who have fallen from material grace. That's because deep inside their unconscious, they feel worthless and empty. They are false grandiose selves, without an inner core of humanity. In a real sense they are pitiful and  impoverished.  

 Wealthy narcissists boast in a myriad of ways about their material success during this devastating economic cycle.  They manage to slip their luxurious lifestyles into their monologues--their treks, trips, journeys to every corner of the world. They climb higher and higher on the executive ladder and let you know it. They spend hundreds of hours hiring professionals to ensure their dwelling places are designed  by the finest architects, have the most square footage, highest quality  materials.  They obsessively deliver their packaged message of success---in person, telephonically, email, society pages, private clubs, elite parties, etc. 


At this crucial moment of economic downturn,loss of savings, staggering personal debt, disappearing jobs and threatened physical and psychological health with an unpredictable future riding the horizon, it  is time to tune in to the desperation and vulnerability of others. If you can help someone by listening with kindness, do it now. If you can't give money, give your time. Even the smallest amount of money, offered with compassion, is a powerful force in upholding hope. This is the moment for giving. When we share and give freely, our hearts open, old psychological patterns are broken and we are renewed. We ask nothing in return. That is the eternal gift of spirit. Share it and thrive. Visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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