In Chinese acupuncture, practiced for thousands of years, the doctor goes to the source of the ailment. This ancient science  is complex and elegant and has brought forth countless healings throughout the ages.

If you want to know the truth about a human being, go to the source---childhood roots. Some would say that doesn't matter. I disagree, especially when you are dealing with a narcissistic personality and they are making your life intolerably painful. I understand. Those who are victimized by narcissists, want relief--- to be able to breathe easily, to sleep, to have peace.  Understanding how narcissists are created in the crucible of childhood will empower those who are dealing with them, especially spouses, ex-spouses and other family members.  Getting down to basics, the narcissist was never allowed to be his or her authentic self. This child was  treated as a miniature king or queen of the household. Often the narcissist to be was chosen by one or both parents to be the special, overly entitled one. He/she was put on a throne, separated from other siblings as perfect and superior. The budding narcissist was not raised with any rules that required empathy or sensitivity to the feelings of others. Those who have had narcissistic siblings, can still feel the cruelties perpetrated upon them by their narcissistic brother(s) or sister(s). 

Spouses and ex-spouses, siblings and in-laws of narcissists benefit from understanding that you must not blame yourself when the narcissist is projecting his venom on you. Learn to separate your issues from his. Those who become involved with narcissists are often their very opposite: empathic, sensitive, kind, compassionate.  Many have difficult psychological backgrounds of emotional neglect, deprivation and abuse. They grow up feeling invisible, unentitled and unworthy. These individuals are drawn to narcissists who are magnetic, confident, over entitled, super charming. The narcissist is exploitive and has no sense of limits in using you for his purposes. Stop this injustice by learning how to deal with these highly disturbed individuals. You deserve a life of peace, spontaneity, creativity and joy. Peruse my blogs and visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com 


Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Email:lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com