We never know when or where we will meet a narcissist.  It is likely to be very soon. Neither do we know how or why we will meet an individual who lives in a different universe altogether. It is my great fortune to have made a friendly connection with the clerk at the gas station near my home. The many battles and sorrows of her life are clearly etched on her face. Her eyes reveal the residues of years of early neglect and chronic abuse. She has suffered many crushing blows and seesawed wildly in the environs of physical and psychological danger. Shelley is a bonafide survivor, a Lazarus.  One day between paying for gas and appraising the tempting snacks that called to me, Shelly said that she is happy with her life. "I've learned to distinguish between what I need from what I want."  The hairs on my head stood at attention. "I lead a good life and I am grateful. I have everything I need: a place to live, enough food, my AA sponsor, my job, and a couple of friends."  Her eyes softened. I felt the peace and integrity behind these statements and the daily behaviors that are the evidence of her personal creed. She continued: "Two weeks ago, they cut my hours. I was worried at first but found a second job, taking care of animals. They gave me back some more time here. I am going to be ok. I have everything I need." Shelley is the antithesis of a narcissist. Visit my website.www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
email:lmlphd@gmail.com