High level narcissists are irresistible and irrepressible. They hold  vibrational magic in their hands and magnetize us to them in seconds. Clinically trained psychiatrists are put off balance by this psychological voodoo.  It is not surprising that most people are easily fooled and do not recognize that they are dealing with an individual who bases his "relationships" only on how it will benefit him or her. The narcissist has purposely come to the marketplace and will leave with exactly what he wants. . 

When we are bitten by a bee, our overriding urge is to pull out the stinger. When we are bitten and smitten with a narcissist, we keep the stinger. Surprisingly, at first, it feels so good. We are enchanted---mesmerized by the physical and psychological chemical combustion.  It's Kismet, meant to be. We fall; we fly and let down any guard we ever had. Face to face, eye to eye with a talented narcissist is a thrill rush---a never ending adrenaline pleasure ride. 

Act II begins and the music, plot, scenery, and script become complicated.  The rosy rush is muted by frequent criticisms, demands, intimidations, blame and complaints on the part of the narcissist. He is not getting his needs met. We are not paying enough attention to him or her. We aren't praising him enough for all of his accomplishments. We are interrupting the incessant flow of  his brilliant ideas and insights. If you do everything perfectly for a narcissist , it will never be enough. He/she suffers from a severe personality disorder, deeply ingrained from early childhood that is very unlikely to change. When we are involved with a narcissist, the opportunity and the often obscured gift is in awakening to and changing ourselves. 

Will you leave the curtain down on Act III with the narcissist, leave the stage, pull out the stinger and begin to heal? You are capable of doing this and deserve to create and evolve your own life in the design, colors and textures that you choose. That new life can begin right now. Visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com.  

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
lmlphd@gmail.com