If you have been married to or involved with a narcissist for some time and the relationship has turned rocky, your suggestions that the two of you try psychotherapy will not be well received.  The narcissist, who believes that he or she is perfect and superior, can't and won't understand that he is causing serious painful issues in the relationship. His first response is:"what are you talking about; we don't have any problems  I'm so good to you. " " You are never satisfied. You have an overly active imagination."  "You
are demanding and high maintenance. There are plenty of women  (men) who would beg to be with me." These are the negative responses you will get. 

If there has been a long marriage and a large sums of money and  property are about to be divided up, some narcissists will enter therapy to pretend that they are cooperating.  A few narcissists decide that they will "keep the marriage together" because a battle over finances would be too damaging to them. This way they maintain the image of the "happy marriage" and are free to have relationships outside the marital covenant.  Many narcissists marry a number of times and have numerous affairs going on as well.  

Narcissists owe their allegiance only to themselves. They are incapable of meaningful relationships. They are not introspective and lack true insight.  The narcissist creates his own truth regardless of how grandiose and delusional it is. Understanding, identifying, and learning how to successfully deal with the narcissists who come into your life will promote your personal growth and your individuation process. Visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi,Ph.D.
lmlphd@gmail.com