The self-entitled, grandiose, over the top narcissist who is omnipresent in our boardrooms and bedrooms didn't spring full grown like Athena from the head of Zeus. He was created from early childhood as a result of  parental influence. One common scenario is of a parent or parents who choose a particular child for his or her unique outstanding characteristics: beauty, handsomeness, athletic prowess, intellectual brilliance, artistic talent.  This child is seized upon by the parents as their Golden Child, their perfect offspring that they worship as long as the child fulfills their wishes. The parent of the budding narcissist places no limits on him. The parent does not teach his child to be sensitive and respectful of the feelings of other children or anyone else. The overt and covert message that the parent conveys is:  "All that counts is succeeding. It doesn't matter how you get there, as long as you win."  As a result, the future narcissist believes that he is a superior being and develops a false grandiose self. Beneath all the bravado, this child was never loved for being his genuine self but only as the answer to his parents' unfulfilled needs to feel important. The full grown "Golden Child" narcissist is a taker. His relationships, private and professional, are always exploitive. He or she is a manipulator par excellence. Lacking a conscience, the narcissist rides in the fast lane of life, running through red lights, to get what he wants. The narcissist is a user not a giver.  Narcissists who operate at a high level are rewarded handsomely and praised by the world for their accomplishments. Without a conscience and obsessed with unbridled ambition, they have no reason to change.  The wind is at their back.  But something essential inside of him is missing.  He is incapable of love or empathy. The narcissist is an incomplete human being, an empty fraud.  Visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com


Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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